I never spoke of this to Jake, but, since I am now married to a damn Yankee (you know, one who came and stayed), I have discovered that many of my northern family and friends go out of their way to be affectionate and to say “I love you.”
So, I don’t believe this is a regional affectation, and I do believe that many more people are using the word love more openly than they used to – but not all!
When I phone, text, message, etc., my family and friends, I most often end the message with “I love you.” Now, obviously I don’t say that to everyone – while I hope in a Christian way I do love everyone, there are some folks I just don’t feel close enough to say that to.
Sometimes at the end of a conversation with my daughters or grandchildren, they will say ”I love you‚“ first, and I feel guilty that I didn’t say it first! Childish, I know!
But I don’t believe we can say “I love you” too often to those people we really care for. It’s important both for us to say it and for them to hear it. It’s the last thing Raf and I say to each other at night before sleep overtakes us, and, somehow, I think it give us a more peaceful rest.
So, if someone tells you they love you, how should you respond? Don‘t be uncomfortable to allow your feelings to show.