I will never understand the kind of person who criticizes others for lacking ability in his own area of competency.
I, for example, never have and never will be able to keep a neat office. I wish for it, endlessly work at it, intensely admire others who accomplish it with seeming ease, but it is just not my area of gifting.
What I can do well is organize a huge event like a fundraiser, community health fair or weekend retreat, planning everything from beginning to end down to the smallest details. I’m proficient at developing instructional programs and writing curricula. And I’m a skilled accompanist. So it would make about as much sense for a competent housekeeper to criticize my messy personal space as for me to fault someone who has never taken lessons for not being able to play the piano.
Spelling has always come naturally to me. Does that mean my assistant’s job security is threatened because she’s not the world’s best speller? By no means! She’s our resident genius when it comes to numbers and technology. Rather than regarding her area of weakness with chronic disapproval, I celebrate the strengths she contributes to our team.
What good would it do for a farmer to look down his nose at a city girl because she doesn’t know how to milk a cow? Why should I reprimand a person who’s never been to Korea for not understanding if I speak to him in Korean?
To focus on people’s weaknesses without acknowledging their strengths, or without at least offering some kind of practical help, is petty and counter-productive. Few situations can be improved by self-satisfied persons simply pointing their fingers and saying, “Shame on you for not being as proficient as I am.”